Women of Rubies

In Interviews&profile September 17, 2023 By Women of Rubies

Mercy-Hephzibah Ndifon: Celebrating The Fiction Champion Of The Chinaza Favour And Worital Writing Challenge

Meet Mercy-Hephzibah Ndifon, a prolific writer from Calabar who took her initial steps in the world of creativity by sharing her profound thoughts and words through Facebook articles in 2016. Over time, she gracefully transitioned into spoken word performances, etching her presence in the tapestry of contemporary literature and performance art. Mercy-Hephzibah Ndifon is undeniably one of these exceptional individuals. As the lead content creator at the Journal of a Jesus Girl, she has carved a unique path in the world of inspirational storytelling.

A Blossoming Talent

Mercy-Hephzibah’s creative journey began with humble steps on the digital platform of Facebook. It was here that she first shared her thoughts and ideas with the world. Her writing, infused with creativity and a unique perspective, quickly caught the attention of readers. As her articles gained traction, she began to build a devoted following of readers and admirers.

A Diverse Creative Portfolio

One of the hallmarks of Mercy-Hephzibah’s talent is her diversity as an artist. She doesn’t confine herself to one genre or style of writing. Instead, she explores multiple avenues, crafting personal stories that touch the heart, spinning captivating fiction that sparks the imagination, and delving into the profound world of Bible-inspired articles that offer readers spiritual insight.

Mercy-Hephzibah’s Blogging Journey

In the digital age, writers often find a home for their creativity in the blogosphere, and Mercy-Hephzibah is no exception. She established her own blog, a virtual space where her words could resonate with an even wider audience. The Journal of a Jesus Girl is not just another blog; it’s a haven of inspiration and spiritual growth. Under Mercy-Hephzibah’s guidance, the platform has evolved into a place where people from all walks of life can find solace, encouragement, and motivation.

The content is a fusion of faith-based wisdom, personal experiences, and practical advice, all aimed at helping individuals navigate life’s challenges with faith. Her blog serves as a canvas, offering readers a glimpse into her world and the depth of her creativity.

A Thriving Online Presence

With a strong presence on Facebook, Mercy-Hephzibah has amassed a following of over 56,000 dedicated followers. Her impact on social media extends beyond the numbers, as she uses her platform to inspire, educate, and engage with her audience. Through thought-provoking articles and captivating spoken word performances, she has built a community of individuals who eagerly await her next creation.

Mercy-Hephzibah’s Spoken Word Artistry

While her writing journey was blossoming on social media, Mercy-Hephzibah also felt the urge to express herself through spoken word. This marked a significant turning point in her artistic career, which has taken her to more than 50 events, each one an opportunity to share her unique perspective and leave an indelible impression. She took to the stage, delivering powerful performances that left audiences in awe. Her spoken word pieces became a vehicle through which she could convey her emotions and thoughts in a captivating and mesmerizing manner.

Beyond Artistry: A Consultant and Educator

While her artistry takes center stage, Mercy-Hephzibah’s talents extend into the world of digital marketing. She consults for brands, offering her expertise in crafting compelling content and managing social media. Her knowledge and experience make her a valuable resource for businesses looking to establish a strong online presence.

Furthermore, she is passionate about imparting her knowledge to others. Mercy-Hephzibah is not content with her own success; she is dedicated to helping others on their writing and content creation journeys. Her workshops and educational content serve as a source of inspiration and guidance for aspiring writers and content creators.

A Literary Legacy

Mercy-Hephzibah’s creative journey has also been marked by the publication of two authored books. These works showcase her storytelling prowess and offer readers a deeper glimpse into her world. Her books are a testament to her dedication to the craft of writing and her commitment to sharing her unique perspective with the world.

In the realm of contemporary literature and performance art, Mercy-Hephzibah Ndifon stands as a captivating force. Her journey from sharing articles on Facebook to gracing stages with her spoken word performances is a testament to her unwavering commitment to her craft. Her diverse talents, thriving online presence, and contributions as a consultant and educator have solidified her place as a multifaceted artist and influencer.

As her creative journey continues to unfold, one can only anticipate the remarkable stories, performances, and insights that Mercy-Hephzibah will continue to share with the world. In Calabar and beyond, her words and performances resonate, leaving an indelible mark on those fortunate enough to experience her artistry.

In Career Gems September 18, 2023 By Women of Rubies

Eniola Akinbo Niyola: From A Vibrant Childhood In A Large Family To The World Of Entertainment

Popularly known as Niyola, Eniola Akinbo is famous for her unique voice and stage presence. With a music career spanning over 20 years, the former EME artiste has paid her dues in the entertainment industry.

Niyola’s late father first noticed her talent when she was 8 years old. In 2000, she took part in a talent show and emerged as the first runner up, which marked the beginning of her journey in the music industry. Aside from singing, she has also done soundtracks for movies.

While her journey has not been a walk in the park, with determination, Eniola has managed to stay relevant for over 20 years. She recently made her acting debut in Kunle Afolayan’s movie Swallow, where she played ‘Tolani.’ She shares her inspiring journey, goals, challenges as an entertainer, and how she’s been able to stay grounded in this exclusive interview with Esther Ijewere.

Childhood Influence

I grew up in a large family where it was literally always like a movie set; different characters, different age groups. Incidentally, my dad was one involved in each of his children’s day-to-day lives; he noticed things even my mother didn’t. He was the one who discovered and really helped me nurture my talent. He had incentive parties every year where whoever came top of their class would be awarded a prize. We would come up with acts for the day of the event; singing, action drama and other fun stuff.

Most importantly, he made me write songs for morning devotion and took me to my first concert at age 8 or 9; it was a Funmi Adams concert. So, there are different things in my childhood that prepared me for where I am now.

Why I Pitched My Tent In The Music Industry

I stumbled on the Nigerian music industry at an early age through a talent hunt I did, and I just somehow found myself delving deeper and becoming more grounded. I had the likes of Sound Sultan, Faze, Paul play and many more encouraging me to forge ahead

Staying Relevant Since 2000

It’s a tricky one, but I honestly think that the fact that we are doing this interview in 2021 is an answer in itself. I think I have somehow managed to; I don’t know how, but I am grateful to God.

My Acting Debut In Kunle Afolayan’s Movie Swallow

It’s one of those experiences that will forever be a milestone. It’s new; it’s different, and a learning curve, which I am so intrigued by. I have always been a fan of Kunle Afolayan; I never dreamt that I would one day star as a lead in one of his works. It’s particularly interesting and significant for me because everything about Swallow is authentically Nigerian! The writer, Sefi Atta, wrote the story.

It’s the perfect film for anyone to find out what Lagos and Nigeria truly were like in the 80s, and that could explain a lot about certain belief systems and behavioural patterns in our society today
Playing ‘Tolani’ In The Movie

Too many to mention, but it’s the age-old ‘To thyself be true.’ At the end of it all, it’s important to know oneself and always do what works for oneself and not bow to peer pressure, because the grass seems greener on the other side.

Plans for the Movie Industry

Anything is possible. I am open to exploring anything that helps me express myself, so, I am open to it. Yes!

My Music Career And The Next Phase

I have been working on music mostly for film and other artists, so you will probably find music I have performed on like King Of Boys and Swallow. Two others are coming soon, which I am not sure I am allowed to mention

I will be releasing Niyola’s music at some point. I wish I could say when, but I honestly can’t for now, as I am not quite there yet; I am working on it though

Challenges As An Entertainer

Hmmm, I think about having so many ideas and choosing the ones that best express what I am feeling and intend to share in that moment. Sometimes, how you felt months ago when you wrote a song or four isn’t the same as when you’re done with it. Most times, it’s important for me to share what I feel, so I move to what I am feeling and it could be an endless cycle.

That’s why we have teams that help us because we can’t separate our emotions from it. Also, the fact that everyone has an opinion about what’s best for you or feels that you’re made of stone and don’t have feelings; it’s hilarious and can be frustrating.

Three Women Who Inspire Me To Be Better And Why

Too many, but I will try to narrow it down and bring it home.

The first person is Chimamanda Adichie; She is so intelligent and unapologetically herself. She inspires me to wear my Africaness

Secondly, Kemi Adetiba is a good friend of mine and that woman is forever trying to do the impossible, and it’s all so selfless because it’s never for herself. She’s also not afraid to be vulnerable and I think that’s a huge strength in itself; that’s inspiring for me.

Finally, Sarah Jakes Roberts; I love anyone who loves God. She wears it boldly and she shows that knowing and serving doesn’t make you any less cool, it’s a superpower. She inspires me to draw closer to God

Being A Woman Of Rubies

Being a woman at all, and getting where I am, despite the odds stacked against women in Nigeria and in the industry I work in.

Other Projects And Activities Aside From Movies And Music

There’s more of me that I would like to share in due time, Until then, please watch Swallow, stream the music and thank you so much for your continued unwavering support; I do not take it for granted.

In Inspiration September 14, 2023 By Women of Rubies

‘Purpose Is A Journey, Not A Destination’- Lola Adamson

The secret of multitasking is that it is not actually multitasking. It’s just extreme focus and organization. Lola Adamson fits the bill. She is an Actor, Storyteller and Content Creator. Her love for film, art and music blossomed at a very young age. Inspired by her famous artist dad; Kenny Adamson, It is safe to say she took after him.

Lola is passionate about the film industry, motivating and entertaining people. Her Love for all things film paved the way to storytelling which led to her writing and reading real-life stories, untold stories and fictional stories on her platform, Short Stories with Lola.

She was a publicist and talent manager for 9 years. Managing some of the biggest names in the entertainment industry such as DJ Cuppy, Tiwa Savage, MI Abaga, and a host of others.

In 2017, passion and purpose kicked in and placed her on the path to pursue her acting career, which led to her recent appearance in Eddie Murphy’s “Coming To America 2”. She shares her inspiring journey with Esther Ijewere in this exclusive interview.

Growing Up

I grew up in a creative and expressive environment. My dad is an artist, Kenny Adamson. Growing up, I spent most of my time with him. He was a single parent and I was his only child then. He taught me to express myself and to never be afraid, not even when it comes to risks or failure. He would teach me to learn from it and be a better person. I watched my dad earn a living doing what he loves. I’d always be in the studio with him watching him sketch and paint. Listening to a wide variety of music with him as he worked, I would see the joy on his face as he tapped his feet and stroked his brush on the canvas. After each painting was done, we would sit on our stools, no music, no sound, just the 2 of us staring at the painting. Sometimes if he was alone, he’d call me to come sit with him and he’d ask “Tell me what you see”. It was simply beautiful.

When times were hard, I never heard him say “Let me learn a course or dive into a different field because we need money”. He would say “This is all I know; this is the gift and talent God has blessed me with. God has equipped me with the tools I need to earn and with God’s help, I will always succeed

Why I became a storyteller and pitched my tent in the movie industry

From a very young age, I always knew I wanted to be an actor, it always came first. The desire has been in me since the age of 7. Deciding what course to study at University, theatre arts came first but I ended up studying International Relations for my undergrad and International Business for my master’s. At that point, I feared I had outgrown any opportunity I had, I was afraid and lacked any form of confidence in pursuing a career in the film industry. After many years working in the music industry, I realized the moment I wasn’t happy anymore that something had to change. I deserved to be as happy as the clients I was managing, they were following their dreams, so why wasn’t I doing the same? And so in 2017, I decided it was time to pursue passion.

I always thought of myself as a storyteller. It’s part of the reason why I am extremely passionate about the film industry. The desire to pursue acting opened the door to storytelling.

Short stories with Lola

In June 2021, I was thinking of what else I could do to bring in money for myself. I didn’t have a job then and I also didn’t want anything to take me fully away from pursuing a career in acting. I took a notepad and sat outside, I told the Holy Spirit to bless me with ideas and He said to list the things I love doing. I wrote out 6 different things and I got lost, didn’t know how to continue so I closed the book and told the Holy Spirit to bring me back to these ideas when it was time. A few weeks later, during my therapy session, my therapist said “if I say you’re a storyteller, what does that mean to do?”. I was surprised but also really wasn’t because it’s a part of me. She continued and said, “Lola God wants you to start writing and telling stories”.

A week later, I opened my notepad and found myself on the page where I wrote out the things I loved doing and storytelling was the 6th thing I wrote. I started crying, It made sense. God spoke but I was unsure of how to move ahead, Then He spoke through a familiar voice. I recorded my first story that week. That’s how Short Stories with Lola was born.

Changing career paths from talent management into film and acting

We’re all on different paths. For some, that one career is the path to do all God has said they would do in life. Purpose is a journey, not a destination. God will always move us and change things in our lives, there’s always more He has for each of us. Purpose evolves, it has different layers just like an onion. It was made a mystery for us to find. With my story, each layer has helped unlock the next. Do not limit what God can do in your life. Do not put God in a box. Take the first step and move and as you move you will see, learn and understand more. For some people, within their purpose for a season is another purpose.

The transition process

To be honest, I still kind of worry sometimes but thank God for my therapist and life coach who has helped me with the process of challenging and eliminating limiting thoughts. I know I am not Crazy for following this path. There was a time I thought I had outgrown any chance I had, I lost confidence in myself, was scared people would laugh at me so I locked myself in the cage of fear for over 15 years. Inspired by Ava DuVernay’s story, I told God I was ready.

I knew the minute I made my decision, it would not be easy. I believe I mentally prepared myself for the struggle, disappointments, rejections etc, and that has helped me hold on. I take it one day at a time. For me it wasn’t and still isn’t a “will it ever happen? Am I good at this?”. I know that I am a talented actor, I know God didn’t make a mistake blessing me with this beautiful gift and I know it will happen. The when and how is what I leave to God.

I feel drained sometimes, the frustration sets in and I say to myself “I don’t know why I didn’t bring Tech or business head into this life o, I’ll be making money now instead of wondering if they’ll cast me or not. Or if I had just stayed in the music industry I’d have grown so much and living life like my colleagues” Lol. I know that’s the stress talking because I always end with “I will keep pushing”.

Impact and lessons from managing some of the biggest names in the entertainment industry for 9 years

The one great important thing I learnt was “in this industry, you need to have tough skin”. That alone teaches you there will be disappointments, rejections, and disrespect but you know who you are and what your focus is. Humility will teach you how to be calm and ignore some things because really, not every action requires a reaction. And also, never mess with your contracts. Don’t just leave it for people to read for you. Be aware of what you’re signing, and how it favors and affects you. Hold yourself accountable because it’s also not just about you, there are other souls tied to your destiny.

The highlight of my appearance in “Coming to America” 2

Being on the same production set with people I idolized growing up was unbelievable. A blessing. Looking at the cast and thinking “This is real Lola, they’re real, it’s not a dream”. It was like God showing me the more He has for me if I keep believing, trusting in Him & doing the work. I was on set for 3-4 days, 14-16 hours each day, in winter. Many special moments but my fav was talking to Wesley Snipes at breakfast, telling him I’m Nigerian. He saw me hours later at lunch & said “Bawo ni”, I lost my mind. I still wonder how he knew I was Yoruba. Lol

Seeing Arsenio Hall maintain his character as Baba when the tapes weren’t rolling was an amazing learning experience. It wasn’t just a background role for me, I was in class, learning. I didn’t worry about taking pictures with the cast, I’ll take better ones with them real soon, on set.

3 women Who Inspire me to be better and Why

1, My late aunt, my dad’s twin sister. She was a mother to me, she raised me. My Aunty Taiye was all about peace. She was sweet, her words were always encouraging and soothing. As a kid, I always admired her dedication to her catering service. She catered to a few banks in VI back in the early 90’s. You’d see people from all walks of life around her, praising her, praying for her. She cared for many children in her life and watching her do that gave birth to the desire to always want to do something for children. She was the true definition of “your life isn’t just about you”.

2. Laila Johnson Salami. I’ve known Laila since she was about 18 or 19, we met before she finished university and she has always inspired me. She’s always known what she wants and has gone for it. I’ve watched her grow from then to now as one of the best news broadcasters in Nigeria She’s achieved all this at the age of 25. I’m excited for her future and proud to call her friend.

3. Rihanna. I admire her love for, and passion poured into making her country a better place. I love how she pours into her home. I desire to do that. I always say she got lemons and made the tastiest lemonade with it, lol. I love how she’s herself, there’s a vibe to her authenticity. She’s who she is and does what she does. Her journey is one for the books

Challenges of being an actor and storyteller

The major challenge with acting is dealing with the rejections or no response to projects I’ve auditioned for. Another is finances. This dream requires sacrifice, you must pour into it and spend a lot till it starts paying you. And with finances, you need a good job. Now a really good job will require my time and passion for it as well. Lol. It’s like a roller coaster sometimes. With storytelling it will be writing fictitious stories, sometimes I am blank for weeks till something comes in. Other times are trying to convince people to share their stories.

Being a Woman of Rubies

Oh wow, lol. Wouldn’t be nice to list things. Really, It’s God. It’s God in me. That’s who makes me a woman of rubies and more. I always pray that when people see me, they see God. That alone gives me unexplainable joy.

To anyone having a hard time going after their passion because they’re afraid of plunging into unknown territories

What is the worst that can happen? We will all die one day. Do you want to die knowing you tried or knowing you didn’t try at all? It’s better to take risks, and learn from your failures than not try at all because you let fear keep you trapped. It all starts in the mind. The mind is like a stubborn child who likes to throw unnecessary tantrums because it’s scared of what it doesn’t know. You are in control, not your mind. Who are you leaning on? Who’s leading you? Who are you surrounding yourself with? Let God be your main focus, He will then equip & bless you with the right tools & people that will help motivate & push you to be the best version of yourself, living out the desires He has placed in you.

The art industry in Nigeria, support for artists, and the need for improvement

In recent years I believe the industry in Nigeria is starting to support female actors and storytellers. It’s been a long time coming but it is happening now, Women are making great moves and it gives me so much joy to experience it. I would say the area of education, that’s the foundation. Let’s normalize reading books, and learning about other great women who have walked this earth and accomplished great things and impacted the world with their stories and characters portrayed.

Talent management and future goals

I really don’t like to say never because the truth is, we don’t know what will happen or how we will feel in the next year. But, it’s not something I want to go back to. I’ve been offered a job in Atlanta to work with a new record label and I passed on it.

In Career Gems September 14, 2023 By Women of Rubies

11 Ways Parents Can Help Children Do Better In School

Do you dream of your children shining in school? Do you want your kids to do better with schoolwork?

You can do your share in helping your children improve their academic performance. Here are some tips you can implement to increase the chances of success in school.

Remember that miracles don’t happen overnight. You have to be patient and wait to get results after implementing these tips.

• Make them Realize they have to Learn

Children are very likely to learn something new quite easily if it matches their interests. It is totally another story to make your child take a keen interest in a subject he has no liking for.

Let your child know that it is his job to learn everything taught in school — even the uninteresting bits. Share your own experience if that will help.

• Keep Your Expectations High

You don’t have to be super ambitious when it comes to setting targets for your children. However, children tend to perform better at school if parental expectations are reasonably high. In simple words, your child will not do well if you don’t expect her to do well.

• Recognize the Difference between Learning and Studying

There is a stark difference between studying a lesson and learning a lesson. You must be able to recognize this difference if you want better results from your children at school. It is important for children to learn the lesson rather than just studying it.

Test their knowledge by asking questions about a certain lesson on regular occasions. Ask them in such a way that it tests their critical thinking on the lessons at hand. It is important for children to understand that school is merely preparation for real life and real careers in the future.

• Create Proper Learning Environment at Home

A lot has been written about providing your children with a proper learning environment at home. Still, not many parents manage to accomplish this very important task.

You must provide your children with all the necessary facilities to succeed. There should be a study desk, chair and adequate lighting for every child. Similarly, all the school supplies such as pencils, paper, pens, computers, calculators and compasses should be available in abundance. Most importantly, there should be a quiet place in the home for children to study.

• Visit Your Children’s School Often

It is important for you to fully know the physical layout of your child’s school building and the grounds. It will enable you to mentally connect with your children when you ask about their day at school.

Similarly, you must meet their teachers regularly. You should never miss a parent and teachers meeting. It is also imperative to regularly check the school’s website for things like staff’s contact information, school calendar, upcoming events and testing dates.

All these things will help you remain informed about your children’s activities as well as their learning needs and potential.

• Encourage Healthy Habits

The performance of your children at school largely depends on their health as well. Developing good habits at home means they are increasing their chances of excelling.

For instance, your children must have a healthy breakfast in the morning. They should go to bed early so they can have plenty of sleep. Ensure that they don’t spend much time in front of the TV or computer as well.

• Develop a Routine

Helping children organize themselves through a daily routine is also a very good habit to teach. Remember most kids thrive in set routines and structures.

For example, you can ask your children to make their beds, get dressed and take breakfast while you prepare their lunch. You can develop many routines at home but their purpose should be same — helping your children do well in life.

• Let Your Children Solve their Own Problems

Your children must try their level best to solve their own problems before coming to you for help. You deprive the child of an opportunity to solve a problem every time you resolve issues for him. On the other hand, a child who has made all efforts to find the answer but has not succeeded deserves all of your help.

• Have them Do More than Required

Students will learn and retain more if they practice regularly. Have your children practice more than actually required.

For example, ask them to solve more practice problems in addition to those in the teacher’s assignments. You must inspire them to go above and beyond their normal routine to achieve success at school and in life.

• Learning should Continue in all Seasons

Every year, children enjoy three months of summer vacation. However, they should not take a break from learning during these months.

In fact, summer is a good time to learn something new which schools usually don’t teach their students. It is also a good time to revise what your children have learned in the school.

Similarly, your children have all the time to develop new intellectual skills. They have the time to go to libraries and read good books on different topics.

• Set a Good Example

Last but not the least, you must set a good example for your children. Teach them by example that learning continues throughout life and does not stop when you leave school.

Let your children learn from your behaviors when it comes to performing your job and household duties. If you have bad habits yourself, you cannot expect your children to develop good ones. They always tend to follow the path of their parents, making it extremely important for you to be a good example for them.

Conclusion

These are some of the many ways you can help your children shine at school. Keep in mind that not all children are equally capable physically as well as mentally. They have different learning requirements and needs and you must meet all these needs to help them give a good account of themselves in studies.

In lifestyle September 11, 2023 By Women of Rubies

Leadership Skills for Women: Paving the Way to Success

In the evolving landscape of leadership, women are increasingly taking on influential roles, breaking the glass ceiling, and inspiring others along the way. While progress has been made, there’s still work to be done to ensure that women have equal opportunities to lead. A crucial part of this journey involves honing leadership skills. This article explores the essential leadership skills for women and how they can pave the way to success.

What is Leadership Skills

Leadership skills refer to the abilities and qualities that individuals possess to effectively guide, motivate, and influence others to achieve common goals and objectives. These skills encompass a broad range of attributes, including communication, problem-solving, decision-making, empathy, adaptability, and the capacity to inspire and empower team members.

Leadership skills are not limited to those in formal leadership positions; they can be developed and utilized by anyone interested in making a positive impact on a group, organization, or community. Effective leadership skills for women are essential for driving progress, fostering teamwork, and achieving success in various aspects of life, including business, education, politics, and social causes.

Leadership Skills For Women

Leadership skills for women encompass a set of qualities, abilities, and behaviors that enable women to excel in leadership roles. These skills include effective communication, emotional intelligence, resilience, adaptability, and the ability to inspire and motivate others. Leadership skills for women also involve navigating gender biases and stereotypes while asserting authority and influence in various professional settings. These skills are essential for women to thrive and positively impact as leaders in diverse fields and industries.

Communication Skills

Effective communication is at the core of successful leadership. It involves conveying ideas, building relationships, and inspiring action. Women can enhance their communication skills by honing public speaking abilities and assertiveness.

Public speaking, often regarded as a daunting task, is a skill that can be developed. Joining public speaking clubs, seeking mentorship, and practicing regularly can boost confidence and eloquence. Assertiveness is also vital, as it ensures that one’s voice is heard in meetings and discussions.

Women leaders like Oprah Winfrey and Malala Yousafzai have mastered the art of communication, using their words to inspire millions and drive positive change.

Empowering Others

Empowering others is another leadership skill for Women that deals with equipping and enabling individuals to take ownership of their actions, decisions, and personal growth. It involves providing them with the tools, knowledge, and opportunities needed to make meaningful contributions and take on increased responsibilities.

Empowering others also entails fostering a supportive and inclusive environment where people feel confident, motivated, and encouraged to reach their full potential. This not only benefits individuals but also enhances team dynamics and overall organizational success.

Self-Confidence

Confidence is one of the key leadership for women. Becoming a female leader necessitates having the confidence to surmount obstacles and setbacks.

Rather than succumbing to circumstances or relying on others to identify and eliminate barriers, self-assured women proactively take the lead, motivating and empowering those around them to do likewise.

Therefore, female leaders should believe in their abilities, knowledge, and expertise. This self-confidence not only helps in decision-making but also inspires others to follow. Practice self-affirmation, and remember that your voice and perspective are valuable.

Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence, or EQ, plays a pivotal role in leadership. It encompasses self-awareness, empathy, and the ability to manage emotions. Understanding the emotions and motivations of yourself and others allows for better collaboration, conflict resolution, and team building.

Women possessing emotional intelligence exhibit a sense of inner tranquility that allows them to lead without succumbing to ego-driven impulses. They adeptly navigate their emotions, ensuring they don’t interfere with their capacity to make sound decisions and maintaining assertiveness rather than reactivity.

Resilient women in leadership positions possess a deep sense of empathy towards those under their guidance, placing others’ needs on par with their own. Their focus extends beyond personal advancement, demonstrating an ability to gracefully disregard unsound advice without causing offense to the advisers.

Cultivate your emotional intelligence by actively practicing empathy and active listening.

Decision-Making and Problem-Solving

Leaders are faced with countless decisions and challenges. Effective decision-making and problem-solving are crucial skills for navigating the complex terrain of leadership.

Women may encounter unique challenges in decision-making roles, such as being second-guessed or facing biases. To excel in this area, it’s essential to have a systematic approach to decision-making, considering facts, risks, and long-term consequences.

Resilience and Adaptability

Leadership is not without its trials. Resilience—the ability to bounce back from setbacks—and adaptability—the capacity to thrive in changing environments—are vital attributes.

Resilience is cultivated through facing adversity with a positive mindset, seeking solutions, and learning from failures. Adaptability involves staying open to change, embracing innovation, and adjusting to new circumstances.

Leading by Example

Leading by example is a fundamental aspect of leadership where leaders inspire and guide their teams through their own actions and behaviors. It means living out the values, ethics, and principles you expect from your team. When leaders walk the talk, they not only gain trust and respect but also motivate others to follow suit.

This approach fosters a culture of integrity, responsibility, and excellence within the team or organization. Leading by example is a powerful leadership tool, as it shows that actions carry weight in leadership, often speaking louder than words.

As more women ascend to leadership positions, the landscape of leadership is diversifying, enriching organizations and societies. Leadership skills are not confined to gender; they are about capabilities, determination, and the drive to make a positive impact. Women who possess these leadership skills for women are paving the way to success, inspiring generations to come and proving that leadership knows no gender boundaries.

In Inspiration September 3, 2023 By Women of Rubies

6 Success Tips You Can Adopt To Help You Succeed

The dawn of a new month brings fresh opportunities to pursue your dreams and career goals with renewed vigour. However, aspiring to success is just the beginning; knowing how to achieve it is equally crucial. Here are six essential tips to guide you on your path to success in your career, business, or workplace.

1. Ask Questions: Cultivate Curiosity

Embrace curiosity and ask questions relentlessly. Curiosity kindles excitement, leading to fresh ideas and newfound experiences. Consistently seeking answers to pertinent questions is one of the most effective ways to gain insights and perspectives rapidly. You never know; the answers to your questions could hold the key to your next breakthrough.

2. Listen Attentively: Embrace Diverse Perspectives

No one should be considered beneath you, and it’s essential not to let closed-mindedness and strong opinions hinder you from listening to others. Keep your door and ears open because nobody possesses a monopoly on knowledge. The ability to listen to diverse opinions is a valuable skill that can broaden your horizons.

3. Be Authentic: Forge Your Path

Not everyone will share your viewpoints or endorse your methods, and that’s perfectly fine. Stay true to your authentic self and strive for excellence in everything you do. Your unique approach and confidence in your abilities will set you apart. Remember, it’s more important to believe in yourself than to worry about what others think.

4. Cultivate Persistence: Never Give Up

Success often involves facing setbacks and enduring challenges. Renowned author J.K. Rowling worked on her iconic Harry Potter series for a staggering 17 years before its completion. This remarkable journey reminds us that failure is not the end; it’s giving up that leads to failure. Keep your eyes on your goals and maintain your resilience, even in the face of adversity.

5. Embrace Continuous Improvement: Challenge Yourself

Comfort zones can be limiting. Instead of resting on your laurels, keep pushing your boundaries. Strive to be better when you’re already good, and aim for excellence when you’re the best. The journey of self-improvement is a continuous one, as there is always room for growth.

6. Seek Support: Leverage Resources

You don’t need to be a superhuman to achieve greatness. Seeking help and utilizing available resources is not a sign of weakness but a smart strategy. Talented individuals are ready to offer their expertise; don’t hesitate to employ their services to aid your growth and success.

In your pursuit of success this year, remember that it’s a journey filled with ups and downs. By asking questions, listening, being authentic, persisting, challenging yourself, and seeking support, you equip yourself with a powerful toolkit to overcome obstacles and realize your goals.

In Career Gems September 3, 2023 By Women of Rubies

Malenga Mulendema: The Visionary Black Female Creator Behind Netflix’s Historic African Animation Series

In a historic leap for African representation in the entertainment industry, Netflix has unveiled its very first original African animation series titled “Supa Team 4.” This groundbreaking show, created by Zambian writer Malenga Mulendema, takes center stage in Netflix’s Representation Matters Collection, cementing its importance in promoting diverse narratives.

Originally known as “Mama Ks Team 4,” this vibrant series is set in the heart of Zambia’s capital, Lusaka. It introduces us to a quartet of undercover teenage superheroes recruited by a former spy. These young heroes harness their unique powers to combat crime while juggling the challenges of ordinary life and school.

African Representation Takes the Global Stage

Malenga Mulendema, the creative genius behind “Supa Team 4,” is passionately committed to amplifying African voices on the global platform. She shares, “In creating a superhero show set in Lusaka, I hope to introduce the world to four strong African girls who save the day in their own fun and crazy way. Most importantly, I want to illustrate that anyone from anywhere can be a superhero,” as reported by CBS News.

The genesis of this remarkable series began when Malenga pitched her idea during a pan-African talent search organized by Triggerfish Animation Studios in 2015, ultimately emerging as the victor. Netflix recognized the immense potential of “Supa Team 4” and acquired it in 2019. This milestone follows Netflix’s expanding presence on the African continent, buoyed by the success of other African-produced series like “Blood and Water.”

Malenga Mulendema Excitement

Malenga Mulendema is filled with excitement and anticipation as “Supa Team 4” takes its place in history. She hopes that the series will resonate with global audiences, transcending borders and inspiring countless young hearts. Notably, the series’ theme song is composed by the renowned Sampa the Great, who emphasized its significance for young Zambians. “I’m excited that the world finally gets to see the fantastic show that the incredibly talented super team, from Africa and beyond, have put together… We hope Supa Team 4… will lead to further investment and collaboration so we can continue to grow the industry,” she exclaimed.

Ready for Action: Stream “Supa Team 4” on Netflix

“Supa Team 4” is now available for streaming on Netflix, marking a monumental moment in African storytelling. To catch a glimpse of the captivating world of Zambia’s teen superheroes, be sure to watch the thrilling trailer. “Supa Team 4” not only promises entertainment but also stands as a testament to the power of diverse narratives in shaping our global cultural landscape.

Meet Malenga Mulendema

She is a visionary writer and creator, making waves in the world of entertainment. Hailing from Zambia, she stands as a trailblazing figure as the mastermind behind Netflix’s groundbreaking African animation series, “Supa Team 4.” Malenga’s dedication to amplifying African voices and narratives on a global scale has earned her recognition and acclaim. Through her work, she strives to inspire young minds and pave the way for diverse storytelling in the industry.

In Editor's Choice September 11, 2023 By Women of Rubies

Highlights Of The Women Of Rubies Media Visibility BootCamp (Video Recording)

The recently concluded Women of Rubies Media Visibility BootCamp proved to be a resounding success, delivering two days of empowerment, education, and valuable insights to participants. The event, which took place on the 11th and 12th of August, 2023 featured an impressive lineup of speakers and panellists who shared their expertise on personal branding, financial empowerment, media navigation, mental health, and more.

Click this link to get your copy and unlock the secrets to enhancing your media visibility today.

Day 1: Empowering Women’s Journeys Begins

The event kicked off with a dynamic lineup on Day 1, featuring Esther Ijewere, Nora Agbakhamen, and Chichi Uchendu. Esther Ijewere’s inspiring insights on the importance of building a strong online presence set the tone for the day, followed by Nora Agbakhamen’s captivating take on storytelling. She emphasized the power of storytelling in media, underscoring the significance of connecting with audiences through compelling narratives.

Chichi Uchendu shed light on lucrative opportunities to make money from home, empowering women to harness their skills and passions for financial independence.

Day 2: Fireside Presentations and Main Sessions

Day 2 commenced with a thought-provoking fireside presentation featuring Nikki Porcher, Funmi Ayowole, Ariyike Akinbobola, and Mariam Muritala. Their discussions explored empowerment, mental health, having a clean media brand, and success stories. Nikki Porcher empowering talk highlighted the role of media exposure in empowering black women, motivating attendees to take charge of their narratives. while Funmi Ayowole addressed the critical intersection of mental health and media exposure, underscoring the importance of self-care and well-being.

Ariyike Akinbobola shared the importance of having a clean brand that can stand the test of time, while Mariam Muritala shared her journey of building Canada Vendors, inspiring others to pursue their entrepreneurial dreams.

The day then evolved into the main session, beginning with Tosin Ajibade’s expert advice on media navigation, she provided practical tips for effectively leveraging media platforms, and Gusi Tobby shared insights on positioning for media features, guiding participants on how to capture media attention effectively.

Brenda Okorogba closed the bootcamp with an impactful session on personal branding, urging attendees to embrace their authenticity and harness the power of consistent messaging to stand out in their fields.

The Media Visibility Bootcamp — Panellists- Ariyike Akinbobola, Funmi Ayowole, Nikki Porcher, Maryam Muritala and Moderator- Esther Ijewere

Participants expressed their satisfaction with the event, praising the diverse range of topics covered and the high-quality insights shared by the esteemed speakers. The Women of Rubies Media Visibility BootCamp left attendees equipped with actionable strategies to enhance their personal and professional lives.

For those who couldn’t participate in person, click here to gain access to the replay of the event.

We ensured that the transformative insights and empowerment could be accessed.

The meticulously organized event attracted a diverse audience of women eager to learn, grow, and connect. With a focus on empowerment, education, and practical application, the Women of Rubies Media Visibility BootCamp achieved its goal of providing a transformative experience for all participants.

For inquiries, please contact: Adeyinka- Info@womenofrubies.com

Get the Media Visibility Bootcamp recording here

Women of Rubies Whatsapp line: +1636047472

Join our media visibility Whatsapp group

Website: womenofrubies.com

Social media: Facebook, Instagram, Youtube, Twitter, LinkedIn

In Inspiration September 11, 2023 By Women of Rubies

Ayo Lawrence: Championing Change And Empowerment Through Family Systems Engineering

Ayo Lawrence is more than just a name – it’s a symbol of empowerment, transformation, and leadership. With a passion for helping individuals and families achieve personal and organizational bliss, Ayo has become a beacon of hope and change for many. Known by her tribe as the “Queen of Premium Family Life Practice” and “The Transformational Coach,” her journey is one of profound impact and unwavering commitment.

Queen of Premium Family Life Practice, The Transformational Coach

At her core, Ayo Lawrence is a professional counselor, coach, and therapist who harnesses the power of tools like NeuroLinguistic Programming (NLP), Emotional Intelligence, and Family Systems Engineering to guide her clients toward clarity, healing, wholeness, and balanced living. Her expertise extends beyond individual sessions as she coordinates and leads various professional counseling and intervention programs, collaborating closely with her dedicated team.

Journey To Wholeness: EL-Cubed’s CSR Program Offering Professional Services to Those in Need

EL-Cubed International Limited is making a significant impact through its Corporate Social Responsibility (CSR) program, aptly named ‘Journey To Wholeness.’ This initiative is designed to extend professional services to individuals who may face financial constraints when seeking support.

Initially, the program offered three FREE SESSIONS to each individual in need. However, recognizing the increasing demand for extended support, EL-Cubed took the commendable step of increasing the offering to four FREE SESSIONS per person in January 2023.

Over the course of the past 33 months, EL-Cubed successfully raised a total of 3,203,991.36 naira, equivalent to approximately 4,041.90 USD, with additional contributions of 50 GBP from generous sponsors. This financial support has been instrumental in sustaining the program and enabling access to much-needed services.

Since its inception, the ‘Journey To Wholeness’ program has assisted 197 individuals. Among them, 162 participants have diligently completed their counseling, coaching, or therapy sessions, witnessing transformative changes in their lives. Regrettably, 23 individuals registered for the program but did not proceed with their assigned sessions.

Presently, seven individuals are actively engaged in counseling, coaching, and therapy sessions, tailored to their specific needs. EL-Cubed International Limited remains steadfast in its commitment to their well-being, providing valuable support on their path to wholeness.

EL-Cubed International Limited takes immense pride in its role in positively impacting the lives of those in need of professional support. The company firmly believes that access to resources for personal growth and healing should be accessible to all. ‘Journey To Wholeness’ exemplifies EL-Cubed’s dedication to corporate social responsibility and its unwavering commitment to creating a more equitable world for everyone.”

Credentials That Speak Volumes

Ayo’s expertise is underpinned by an impressive array of certifications and qualifications. She holds the title of Certified Master Practitioner of Family Systems Engineering from the Institute of Family Engineering and Development. She’s also a Certified NLP Practitioner from The Academy of Modern Applied Psychology, Scotland, UK, and a Certified Emotional Intelligence Practitioner from The Priority Academy. Her credentials extend further to include being a Certified Mediator from the International Mediation Campus, Germany, with a specialization in Family Mediation.

A Multifaceted Leader and Visionary

Ayo’s leadership reaches far and wide, as she actively contributes to various organizations’ boards and management teams. She is a member of the Board of Trustees/Executive of esteemed organizations such as GrandCoeur Empowerment Initiative, RareBreedMen Scotland UK, and The Praying Hannah’s Ministry. Her expertise is further recognized by her induction into the Management Team of The Institute of Family Life Engineering and Development in January 2022.

As the Co-Founder, Managing Director, and Lead Consultant at EL-CUBED International Limited, Ayo’s influence touches different spheres. She’s also the host of the Balanced ME™ Show on Living-Loving-Laughing with Ayo Lawrence, a platform that explores themes of love, life, and everything in between.

Empowerment Beyond Boundaries

Ayo’s commitment to empowerment takes digital form with the creation of the Balanced ME™ Toolbox App, available on both Playstore and Appstore. She’s also the driving force behind events like the Hannah’s Conference and the Founder of GrandCoeur Empowerment Initiative.

A Visionary, A Leader, A Trailblazer

With over 23 years of dynamic leadership experience in Operations and Administration Management, Process Improvement, Financial Stewardship, Customer Relationship, and Team Leadership and Development, Ayo has proven herself in both sole proprietorship and corporate settings within and outside Nigeria. Her memberships in prestigious organizations like the Network of Family Systems Engineering Practitioners, Family Life Coaching Association USA, Nigerian Institute of Management (NIM), and the Enterprise Development Centre of the Pan-Atlantic University reflect her commitment to excellence.

Leaving an Indelible Legacy

Ayo Lawrence’s passion for the home and family unit drives her philosophy of preparing the next generation for life and leadership. Her life’s purpose revolves around making an impact in as many ways as possible, ensuring her mark is left on the sands of time.

Ayo is not just a name; it’s a testament to empowerment, transformation, and leadership. Her journey continues to inspire and uplift, reminding us all that we have the power to create change and shape our destinies.

In Career Gems September 2, 2023 By Women of Rubies

18-Year-Old Ariel Messam Makes History As Youngest Certified Black Female Private Pilot In New York

In a world where young individuals are continually breaking barriers and defying odds, the story of Ariel Messam stands out as a testament to determination, passion, and achieving the extraordinary. At just 18 years old, Ariel has etched her name in history as the youngest woman of color to attain the title of Certified Private Pilot in the state of New York.

Hailing from Jamaica, New York, Ariel’s journey to the skies began with an unwavering dream and an unyielding drive for excellence. Her remarkable achievements are a beacon of inspiration for aspiring aviators and young women everywhere.

A Journey Paved with Excellence and Tenacity

Ariel’s educational journey took her to the Aviation Career & Technical Education High School in Queens, New York, where she spent the years 2018 to 2022. Balancing academics and extracurricular activities, she not only earned her high school diploma but also distinguished herself by obtaining certification as an Aircraft Powerplant Technician. This accomplishment, all while playing varsity basketball, speaks volumes about her dedication and ability to excel in multiple domains.

Taking Flight with Purpose

In 2022, Ariel embarked on a new chapter of her aviation journey by joining Level Up and Take Off. Founded by her brother, Anthony Messam, this non-profit organization is dedicated to fostering diversity, inclusion, and equity within the fields of aviation, real estate, and financial management. Ariel assumed the role of a Flight Simulation Instructor, contributing to the mission of providing inner-city youth with hands-on experience and opportunities that can shape their futures.

Operating primarily from Republic Airport in Farmingdale, New York, Ariel’s determination continued to soar. Recently, she took to social media to share a momentous achievement with the world: the realization of her long-cherished goal of becoming the youngest Black woman to be a Certified Private Pilot in the state of New York.

Inspiration for Generations to Come

Ariel Messam’s journey is a story of breaking ceilings and pursuing dreams against all odds. Her determination to succeed in a traditionally male-dominated field serves as an inspiration to young women who aspire to take flight, both literally and metaphorically. Ariel’s accomplishments not only celebrate her individual achievements but also symbolize the limitless potential that exists within young minds when combined with passion, perseverance, and a supportive community.

As Ariel continues to navigate the skies and inspire those around her, her legacy serves as a powerful reminder that the sky is not the limit – it’s just the beginning.

Source: Blacknews.com